It is so important to remember to take a moment for yourself every now and then. You are dealing with a lot as a parent, especially as a parent of a child with autism, and you deserve to take a break. It helps to know your limits and be aware of when you’re starting to get overwhelmed so that you can step away before your emotions get the best of you.
Having a partner, friend, or any support system you can rely on in times of need is extremely helpful. If you can lean on someone or have someone who can step in for you when you’ve hit your limit, you’ll be much better off in the long run. You can better care for your child after you’ve cared for yourself.
Never feel like you have to parent alone. It can be hard to admit you need help and even harder to ask for it, but don’t feel ashamed or embarrassed. Everyone needs help at some point!
Family and friends can be great support systems, whether in person or just to have someone to talk to when you need a listening ear. Additionally, there are blogs, social media channels, and communities online for autism parents and people going through the same thing as you and your family. Find the community that works for you, and don’t be afraid to lean on them when you need it. Sometimes you have to recognize that you need to put yourself first - and that’s ok.
Carve out time for yourself, that’s just for you. Have a night out with your friends, or a date with your partner while you get a sitter you trust or a family member that can come watch your child for a few hours. Even if you just need fifteen minutes alone, ask for it. Trust your support system to be enough and allow yourself to relax, because you deserve it.
Rutan McCafferty, Kimberlee. Dear Moms, Carve out some time for you. Retrieved from: https://www.autismspeaks.org/blog/2018/05/08/dear-moms-carve-out-some-time-you